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Well, first of all I am going to say it is the first post in this New Year. I just entered 2019 where I thought it was still 2018, yes... time is gone fast, I am just looking back at time and asking myself what I had done, what I had done, what I had done... but actually I had got some writing projects to publish in this blog last year but I could not do that due to procrastination, yeah... again I did a stupid thing. Procrastination is the most stupid thing I have ever known. Okay, maybe it is more than just a resolution, from now I just tell myself like ‘Warda, stop procrastinating, do it now!’
As connect to last year, we want to know if we have
already reached out a success or not because everybody has own view regarding
what success is, what things one had already done and can be said if one is successful
in her/his life.
Try to ask everybody, who doesn’t want to be succeed in
her/his life! I bet you will hear everybody wants it. And if you ask them about
what success is, you may hear diverse answers. Some may think success is if we
can get a dream job, some may think success is if we earn much money, or
success is just about having great commercial business where we can buy a fancy
house, fancy cars, travelling overseas and anything else. Most think success is
identically with financial or material which we can reach both. Success is not
just limited on finance and material.
Today is hard enough to not being contagious by others
who show stunning life style which can influence our life, hedonism and materialism;
these two terms seem having correlation. We just pursue material to have fun
and pleasure and we can’t get both them without material. Life is just for fun,
we may think we will be happy if we possess a lot of stuffs, we think we will be
happy if we have gorgeous one like boyfriend/girlfriend to have fun with, we
will think we will be happy if we make a lot of money, we think we will be happy
if we can meet our idols and proud to be one of them so we desperately copy
their style and bad habits just like them. No, we should not be like that.
Sometimes, just for fulfilling what we want we don’t mind
to live far from family to work, we don’t mind to do 8 to 4 or 9 to 5 p.m. job
every day even work overtime as long as the income can cover our life style
that is very consumptive because we are trying to get everything perfect. In
other side, if we were knew what actually the matter is, we would get realized
that what we do is just trying to please the others and being liked and
accepted by people not for our own pleasure and eventually we please none.
You know that going back to our hometown, people here
used to call ‘mudik’ is an achievement for some of us who live in Indonesia, we
live far from our family to work in other city, when we get some days off or
holiday we are so on fire to get back home, of course our hometown, so when we
are back we should have something to convince others that we are successful in
materials, if not, it will be embarrassing like we don’t get anything from
working, it will be considered that you are just wasting time and energy.
If we go back to our hometown from the city or the place
we usually work in, there will be some anxieties that arrive on our mind, maybe
some queries will be thrown by our relatives, neighbours like “have you got a nice car/how many car have you got?”,
“have you got a nice big house?”. “How much money/deposit have you got?”, “What
current position are you in at your work ?”
So now you know the truth is mostly people measure a
success from physic/material, so that is why we become materialistic, because
we like to hear what others say about us, realized or not when we cannot show our
luxurious stuff off any longer whether on social media or in real life, people
will say that you are no longer affordable in buying anything. When we go to
university or school, then you will see, in capitalism era, education system
views material as a purpose. Indication of success in certain university is
when the alumnus becomes the rich; I think we cannot deny it. That is why if
you find the students who answer that they study in the university/college in
order to get certificate officially then get a job when they being asked ‘why
do you study?’ of course it also occurred to me, I was a job oriented student,
but when I am aware that these all is nothing.
Whereas, viewing a success characteristically is
something we should do than physically. As muslim, we have standard to define
it. It is not physic but non physic. Success is just not pursuing the materials
or success is just not defined by material, but success is whether we have
been a good or not, how is the relationship between us and our God that created
us, how do we treat ourselves, how do we treat others. Have we given benefits
for others' lives that really need our helps? And if it all is work, the others
will come along as you go for it. Material is not only thing we pursuing for
pleasure in this world but we pursuing it to get a pleasure in the next world, akhirat.
And, sometimes we need to not being care to what others
say about us, if we get some queries like I wrote above from people, we may
answer honestly but do not take it that seriously if those can make us down.
