#6 We and Smartphone + Social Media

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Well, this is just kind of random talk and fact based on what I know. So the best thing you’ve got to do is just enjoy and read this meticulously.

For some people the option for not to have a social media or IM is kind of weird because now social media becomes part of life which is hard enough to be separated. Have you ever got bored just because your phone is running out of data or no wi-fi? Or what about you forgot your phone at home, what are you gonna do?

I often find my friends lower their head checking their phone probably twice or over every one minute when we are gathering. I don’t even know what they’re checking, tapping or even scrolling, how many apps installed on their phone, yeah of course none of my business. But it seems uncomfortable when I check everybody around; oh they’re busy with the thing on their hand instead of talking each other. Yeah, such this situation make me hopeless sometimes, I wish I can find a friend that seriously pay attention to the partner he/she is talking to with no grabbing any gadgets on hand.

Here I don’t say that I am anti gadget and anti social media, not at all, but I just feel ashamed when all time I have is consumed for a thing called phone unless really urgent. It looks like not fair if I completely blame a phone. It is not about what, it is about how, how you can manage your time, how you can use your social media, how you can treat people around you.

The main problem is not only you and your smartphone but also you with other things which are not too important. I maybe don’t care with what people share on their status on social media or IM so that is why I am not interested to have account of every social media or instant messaging unless really urgent, as usual. In fact, social media is very consuming our time, realise or not, you will feel uncomfortable with status that others share and appear in your social media. However it is created to make you wonder what people share, post, and comment.

You may often hear and see others bullying, doing some hate speech or negative comments, revealing some things that shouldn’t be revealed to public, body shaming, and other negative deeds on social media which can drag you into punishment at the end. Not only that but also when you’re included to a group which doesn’t give you any good by somebody and you find everybody’s just talking rubbish in it instead of discussing something useful.

But in the other side, a smartphone can be very helpful; of course if you use it wisely, it can help your works, as well as social media, it is just like a knife, it just depends on you, if you use it well it can give you a benefit, but in reverse, if you use it arrogantly it will make you feel worse.

To be honest, I am just typical who is selective to have social media, there are so many social media that are familiar but I just have to know which one is appropriate for me, sometimes I would rather not to have it, so I think you don’t need to have account in every social media which you think those are popular right now. I just try to not care about what people have, do, wear, buy, where people travel, instead I prefer to build a new habit like reading and writing because both them can make me feel happy, however I would rather talk to people directly face to face than through social media or IM.

Sometimes you just need a time to put yourself into introspection, and not to give attention on unnecessary things excessively that you found on social media or in your real life. You just need to focus on a thing around you, a thing which is important and can make your life happy and meaningful.

After all, I find a lesson from this all is we just treat others like the way we want to be treated by others, respect each other no matter what they are, just say something positive instead of bullying or make someone offended, something we might consider as a joke but not for one we’re talking of. If we don’t have a nice word to be told better we just shut up, because one has to be careful with what he/she says. Instead of talking rubbish or gossiping our friend better we just do something useful for ourselves and our future.

One more, having account of every social media is not banned because each has different importance, but we only need to be smart how to use it wisely and not being addicted by it.